Comments on: Personal Challenges #2: Focus on Quality Time with Jacob http://kylemeadors.com/2008/02/08/personal-challenges-2-focus-on-quality-time-with-jacob/ Kyle Meadors - The Man The Myth Wed, 18 Jan 2012 14:27:13 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3 By: Kyle http://kylemeadors.com/2008/02/08/personal-challenges-2-focus-on-quality-time-with-jacob/comment-page-1/#comment-140 Kyle Mon, 18 Feb 2008 23:24:02 +0000 http://kylemeadors.com/2008/02/08/personal-challenges-2-focus-on-quality-time-with-jacob/#comment-140 It is not so much a top ten of values I want him to learn but a greater clarity of the values as a whole I want him to see and learn. Reading back over my post, my statement about quality time being time that shapes his character is a little heavy. His character is shaped constantly. What I was trying to convey was a need to spend time with Jacob that he can appreciate as quality. In that time I want to accomplish a couple of things that can't be accomplished in other activities. First, I want him to clearly see here in the present that I love him and value him. The daily care of providing food and shelter are "loving" but not in a way that he can appreciate. Taking him to the pool is such a way. The felt need of security and feeling loved must be filled first before I can "add" the values of honesty, obedience, sharing, etc. Second, it is during these times my lifestyle and character are more in his focus. When he is playing with his trains on the floor by himself, he will have a limited awareness of my actions, such as treating his mother with respect and love. But when we are 1-on-1, he can more see me showing respect to an elderly lady at the Y or other actions that he needs to see. It is a little unnerving that he can pick up all your traits, good and bad, but I believe my character and beliefs are better than what the world as a whole will teach him. It is not so much a top ten of values I want him to learn but a greater clarity of the values as a whole I want him to see and learn. Reading back over my post, my statement about quality time being time that shapes his character is a little heavy. His character is shaped constantly. What I was trying to convey was a need to spend time with Jacob that he can appreciate as quality. In that time I want to accomplish a couple of things that can’t be accomplished in other activities.

First, I want him to clearly see here in the present that I love him and value him. The daily care of providing food and shelter are “loving” but not in a way that he can appreciate. Taking him to the pool is such a way. The felt need of security and feeling loved must be filled first before I can “add” the values of honesty, obedience, sharing, etc.

Second, it is during these times my lifestyle and character are more in his focus. When he is playing with his trains on the floor by himself, he will have a limited awareness of my actions, such as treating his mother with respect and love. But when we are 1-on-1, he can more see me showing respect to an elderly lady at the Y or other actions that he needs to see. It is a little unnerving that he can pick up all your traits, good and bad, but I believe my character and beliefs are better than what the world as a whole will teach him.

]]> By: Greg http://kylemeadors.com/2008/02/08/personal-challenges-2-focus-on-quality-time-with-jacob/comment-page-1/#comment-139 Greg Mon, 18 Feb 2008 17:04:49 +0000 http://kylemeadors.com/2008/02/08/personal-challenges-2-focus-on-quality-time-with-jacob/#comment-139 I'm Just curious, which truths and beliefs do you want to be teaching. You mention a few, but just wondered if you would elaborate. Maybe a top '10' or something. Also wonder if you think there are age appropriate truths and beliefs. I’m Just curious, which truths and beliefs do you want to be teaching. You mention a few, but just wondered if you would elaborate. Maybe a top ’10′ or something. Also wonder if you think there are age appropriate truths and beliefs.

]]> By: Daddy (Daddy Luke) http://kylemeadors.com/2008/02/08/personal-challenges-2-focus-on-quality-time-with-jacob/comment-page-1/#comment-137 Daddy (Daddy Luke) Thu, 14 Feb 2008 23:39:06 +0000 http://kylemeadors.com/2008/02/08/personal-challenges-2-focus-on-quality-time-with-jacob/#comment-137 I am certain you will have many quality moments with Jacob. He loves his Daddy and will always treasure his moments with him. I am also his character will develop just as you hope. It will not be entirely because of the "quality time" you spend with him. Much of it will be by his observations of you as you go about your life. He will be a mirror of you. He will be fine man, I have no doubt. I am certain you will have many quality moments with Jacob. He loves his Daddy and will always treasure his moments with him. I am also his character will develop just as you hope. It will not be entirely because of the “quality time” you spend with him. Much of it will be by his observations of you as you go about your life. He will be a mirror of you. He will be fine man, I have no doubt.

]]> By: Wes http://kylemeadors.com/2008/02/08/personal-challenges-2-focus-on-quality-time-with-jacob/comment-page-1/#comment-132 Wes Sat, 09 Feb 2008 17:16:09 +0000 http://kylemeadors.com/2008/02/08/personal-challenges-2-focus-on-quality-time-with-jacob/#comment-132 Good post, and good advice (indirectly). Good post, and good advice (indirectly).

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